Let’s face it. After you’ve been married for a long time, life gets a little… predictable. You have kids, work all day, come home, eat dinner, and then get ready to do it again the next day. Weekends are a rush of catching up from the week. Every.Single.Week.
If your relationship is like most, it isn’t your first priority. It’s safe and you know it, but it definitely needs a little extra cayenne pepper thrown into it – Your relationship is bland and needs some major spicing up!
Here are 4 of my secrets to put more excitement back into your relationship (and mine too). Nothing too wild, just a little extra kick to help get your passion back into high gear and more excitement in bed (and out) together again.
Work Out Together
If you aren’t already a couple that exercises, whether together or individually, it’s time to lace up those running shoes or grab those yoga mats. Although, if your hubby/boyfriend is anything like mine (he has a stinky booty), be ware of being behind his butt during downward dog or else you’ll be going down too.
Whether you’re going to the tennis courts for a singles match, taking a jog, hiking through the local park trails, or just chasing your pup around the backyard, working out and breaking a sweat together can get you both gets your body and hormones ready for some “of-the-court” action. One of our favorites is a knock off of P90X. It’s called Supreme 90 Day and it kills us whenever we do it, but it is also really sexy seeing Chad workout and try to keep up with me (or vice versa) on certain moves.
Any exercise will stimulate the production of dopamine, a euphoria hormone released into your blood stream which also increases sex drive. Working out also produces hormones known as endorphins. Endorphins are the feel-good and mood elevating hormone, but it also enhances blood flow to some “important” body parts. The endorphin hormone also gives a boost of confidence which can make post-workout sex even more likely – and way more fun!
Leave Him in Suspense With an Early Innuendo-Filled Hint
Instead of your usual peck and saying bye or see you later, blow him away with something totally out of the ordinary to keep him guessing all day. When he comes in for a quick kiss good-bye, pull him in for a deep and passionate kiss for several seconds which will take his breath away. Then when he stands there in total shock, pull him in close and whisper in his ear that you really can’t wait for him to get home from work tonight and send him off to work in total confusion and a smirk on his face all day.
Be sure to follow up on this “promise” made without so many words later that evening in any way you can or are able to. Otherwise, he will be confused, disappointed, and probably upset.
Send Him Racy Texts
Sending sexy text messages, otherwise known as “sexting”, is the surprising foreplay of the technology age. It is likely that no one sees each other’s texts, especially in the workplace, sexting is discreet and feel very naughty, almost like you might be caught doing something you shouldn’t. And that clearly makes it more sexy!
This game between adults in a committed relationship can really be fun, whether caught off-guard in the grocery store or boardroom, these racy texts can turn a boring and predictable day into a flirty and sexy one with just one text. Either done daily, or even just once, daytime sexting together builds your desire and anticipation for what is coming that night in bed together.
Have Sex Without Having “Sex”
If it’s been quite some time since the two of you have had actual intercourse , or if there are other reasons why actual sex may not be an option in your relationship (either for a short period of time or indefinitely), or as an exciting change to your normal routine, having sex without actual sex is a passionate, exciting, and sexy option. Sometimes the actual act of sex gets far too much emphasis placed on it.
By kissing, touching and fooling around, you can enjoy each other’s bodies and can be just as enjoyable as actual intercourse itself. Plus, this foreplay-mimicking session can build anticipation, make you both more physically ready and excited for when you do have sex the next time.
For other ways to spice up your sex life, check out this article.