So, we all know the old adage that opposites attract and there are many theories as to why this is the case. Some things like interesting conversations and different perceptions can help a relationship between different people thrive and keep things fresh and interesting. But, there can be some major issues also caused by two strong personalities in a romantic relationship.
Lack of Respect
Disagreements happen in nearly every relationship, but being able to disagree often, while still remaining mutually respectful can be very difficult to do. It is crucial to remember that part of why you love your partner is because they are an individual with their own thoughts and opinions and don’t have to agree with you all the time.
That being said, it’s important to still always be yourself in these situations and don’t blindly agree with your partner because you are afraid of being different. Being different is what makes you, you. It’s just important to learn how to have debates and disagree on topics without any disrespect towards one another. This is one of the most important parts of communication in a relationship.
Feelings of Inadequacy
Falling in love with an opposite is, in my opinion, falling in love with someone that has qualities that admire – because often you lack them. It is a wonderful thing to look up to your life partner, often that can inspire you to be the very best version of yourself but sometimes that admiration can turn into jealousy or feeling inadequate in comparison.
If you ever begin to feel jealous or inadequate it is crucial to remember that different partners play different roles in every relationship and your partner loves you or just who you are and what you bring to the table. Your partner being vastly different from you can often give us a sense of accomplishment because we feel they are helping us to move past our own personal limitations.
Like I said before, differences on issues and opinion topics can really keep a relationship fresh and interesting. When you have different viewpoints on a variety of issues, it seems like you always have something to talk or debate about. But, this becomes a big problem when some of the issues you disagree on are life-changing or altering issues. Big things like marriage, children and religion are things you need to talk through and come to an understanding each other’s positions from the beginning.
Some of these issues can be avoided by some simple, though sometimes tough, conversations. Others you will need to be more consciously aware of so both of you can do your best to avoid any major points of contention or hurt feelings. In any case, many different kinds of people attract for many different reasons but recognizing and understanding differences can help with the health and longevity of your relationship.
What first attracted you to your significant other? How is your relationship now? Do you communicate?
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